15 Things That Introverts Would Never Tell You

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-things-that-introverts-would-never-tell-you.html

Some topics in this article really struck home, so I’ve decided to go into a little more detail about how these actually describe me.

The first three actually don’t apply to me so much.  I love birthdays.  I love celebrating the existence of [most] people.  I would probably celebrate your birthday with you if I like you enough.  I’ll also listen to you recount your weekend, unless I find you incredibly aggravating.  I’m probably much less likely to care if you tell me about it in a text message, especially if you have horrible grammar or spelling.  Trying to decipher what you have to say makes me want to scratch my eyes out.  I probably won’t volunteer my weekend unless something really exciting happened, and I won’t continue a conversation I have no interest in.

I do hate certain crowds.  If I have to interact with people I don’t know well in a crowded setting, I will not feel comfortable.  If I can quietly ignore you and go about my business in a crowd, I’m totally fine.  This is what I do at concerts, although excessive touching is not appreciated.

I hate the idea of networking.  Sometimes I can find my element and everything is ok, but that normally takes preparation.  Having to introduce myself to someone and try to impress them with my qualities is not something I look forward to.

I generally have a high tolerance for annoying people so I can pretend to like people pretty easily.  If I have to interact with them often, there comes a point where I have to be blunt.  Listening takes effort, and I don’t like wasting my time.

I love my alone time and I never get bored.  NEVER.  There is always something I could be doing or thinking about.  I value good company when I have it but don’t always actively seek it.  I’m up for trying new things, and I have a wide variety of interests, but if the activity doesn’t interest me, I probably won’t do it no matter who is going.

I’m more comfortable writing things out.  I can think more clearly and include everything I really want conveyed, as opposed to talking to people.  I hate phone calls, especially if it involves talking to a stranger.  I tend to rush when I have to call a stranger and rehearse what I have to say beforehand so I don’t forget anything.  All phone calls feel like interruptions.  If there isn’t a true purpose, I prefer not to be called, and I can be curt when I answer.  If I answer.  I generally don’t call back unless I know it has some importance.  (Words of advice: If you really want me to speak on the phone, leave a message with the subject matter.  I’ll be more inclined to call back).  Phone calls take effort.  I have to concentrate on the conversation or my mind and eyes will wander and I’ll want to be multi-tasking.  I don’t like holding the phone to my ear and I can be hard of hearing.  When I call you, I always have a purpose.  I really want to tell you something or ask you something.  I won’t call just to ask how your day is unless I know you’re going through a rough spot.  Calling just to call would require boredom.  And I never get bored.

I love this part.  “We blossom in the right company, and shine. It takes us time to find the right people, and when we do, we don’t hold back.”

I have to admit that I don’t always like people, but when I do, I know I’m fun to be around haha

I know I wear my heart on my sleeve and find it hard to hide my emotions from my face, especially my eyes.  Sometimes people completely misinterpret what they see in my expression.  What I was thinking probably had nothing to do with them.

“We have lots going on in our heads”  So true!  This is why it’s hard to tell people what I’m thinking.  I could have multiple thought patterns going on at once, and when you snap me out of my reverie with that question, my brain freezes.  I WAS thinking about all of this, until you asked.  I can’t possibly describe all of it.

I despise small talk.  ‘How are you?’ or ‘What are you doing?’ are not welcome questions.  I will tolerate them to not be rude, but I won’t have a lot to say.  If you really want to know how I am, then ask me a question with more thought.  What I’m doing most likely does not concern you, and I don’t care what you’re doing unless I want you to hang out with me.  Conversations get much better once the small talk hurdle is overcome.  Common interests might lead to a deeper relationship…unless you’re a jerk or a liar.  We could love all of the same things, but I still won’t like you.

If you’re in my life, it’s because I want you there, and I truly appreciate your presence 🙂